Ben Affleck Had Made Up His Mind on Divorcing Jennifer Lopez After 1 Move That Sealed Their Fate: ‘This isn’t where she thought she’d be’

Love isn’t measured by the days, months, or years spent together, but by how much you cherish each other daily. This truth resonates in many relationships, yet some couples find that love can waver under the pressures of life and expectations. For Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez, their rekindled romance highlights how even the strongest bonds can encounter significant challenges.

Sources close to the Buffy the Vampire Slayer star indicate the moment he recognized his marriage with Lopez was going south, prompting him to make a definitive choice.

Ben Affleck in Buffy the Vampire Slayer (1992) | Credits: Mutant Enemy Productions

Indeed, Affleck reportedly made a pivotal decision when he left their lavish $61 million home in Beverly Hills. A source revealed that the actor never looked back after that move, clearly indicating his intention to end things for good.

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez’s Romance Ends After Two Years?

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez rekindled their romance in 2021, two decades after their initial meeting, and announced their second engagement in April 2022 (see ELLE). They tied the knot in a Las Vegas ceremony on July 16, 2022, with Affleck stepping into the role of stepfather to Lopez’s twins. The couple went their separate ways on April 26, 2024, and the On the Floor singer, 55, officially filed for divorce on August 20, 2024 (via Variety).

Now, according to PEOPLE’s latest reports, Affleck has “never looked back” since moving out from their lavish $61 million home in Beverly Hills earlier this year. Sources close to him reveal that the actor-director, 52, is “very focused on work and his kids”. With a busy schedule, he appears to be finding contentment amid the changes.

Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez in The Greatest Love Story Never Told | Credit: Amazon Prime Video

By June, their Beverly Hills mansion was on the market, signaling a decisive move away from their shared life. Affleck later closed on a new $20 million home in Pacific Palisades in July (see Page Six), a move that cemented the couple’s split.

Near the end of their relationship, Affleck appeared to be in control of the situation. Sources now suggest that he had come to the conclusion that their romance wasn’t working. An insider shared with In Touch Weekly:

It’s just depressing that Ben couldn’t find the time or inclination to be there and support Jennifer.

Affleck missed significant moments, including Lopez’s 55th birthday party and their second wedding anniversary. The insider added:

She never expected to be spending her summer alone. This isn’t where she thought she’d be at this point in her life.

While Lopez seems to be embracing a new chapter of independence, Affleck is focused on his work and family. Bennifer 2.0 has officially come to an end, leaving both to reflect on the path ahead.

Jennifer Lopez’s Self-Love Era: Facing Divorce and Financial Fallout

Jennifer Lopez in The Mother | Credits: Netflix

Love may not come with a price tag, but for Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck, their split is shaping up to be quite costly. A source has indicated that the situation “has the potential to get ugly” as the couple, currently in mediation with high-powered divorce attorney Laura Wasser, faces sticking points over financial matters (per PEOPLE).

Meanwhile, Lopez is embracing a self-love era. In a candid conversation with comedian Nikki Glaser (via Interview magazine), she described how her “whole f**king world exploded” and how a change in perspective ultimately influenced her relationship with Affleck.

You have to be complete if you want something that’s more complete.

This realization prompted her to take a step back, emphasizing that she needs to find happiness within herself rather than seeking it from others. Though she didn’t mention Affleck by name, Lopez made it clear that her identity is not tied to her relationships. She asserted:

Being in a relationship doesn’t define me. I can’t be looking for happiness in other people.

As she officially filed for divorce in August after two years of marriage, she is not seeking new romantic interests. “There’s no new bar because I’m not looking for anybody,” she stated. And while acknowledging that her current single status wasn’t what she anticipated, she remains optimistic:

This is exactly where I needed to be, to lead me to where I want to go.

Lopez has also addressed the misconceptions surrounding her divorce and her personal life. “I know that everything that’s being written and said about me, and all the conjecture of who I am as a person, is not who I am,” she said. With a strong sense of self, she remains focused on her role as a mother to her two kids with ex-husband Marc Anthony.