Valerie Bertinelli Has a Strong Message for Anyone Criticizing Her Eddie Van Halen Post

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Valerie Bertinelli is pushing back after facing criticism for how she chose to honor her ex-husband, late Eddie Van Halen. 

Bertinelli and Van Halen married in 1981 and welcomed their son, Wolfgang, in 1991. They remained married for 26 years before divorcing in 2007. 

In the years since, Bertinelli has remained open about her grief while also discussing her struggles around her body image and self-acceptance. Now, she is responding to followers who have something to say about her methods of grieving. 

Valerie Bertinelli Addressed Haters Following Eddie Van Halen Tribute 

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The “One Day At A Time” actress had a few words for her haters in a reel uploaded to her Instagram.

“It does not take long for me to get a lot of pushback when I post a picture of me and Ed,” the actress started in the video. “It used to really bother me. It does not, not anymore. Not any longer, because I learned a lot.”

The “Hot in Cleveland” star said those who have experienced coercive control would understand what happens to her. She described it as slow and insidious, adding that she has learned from her experience and refuses to let anyone dictate how she feels. 

According to the actress, the criticism might not come as a direct command, but as a steady stream of comments to pass the message across.

Using an example, she explained that they would not directly ask her to take down a photo of Van Halen, but would call her “obsessed” and say “all kinds of f-cked up sh-t” until she eventually took it down. Defending her tribute, Bertinelli added:

“My heart can hold a lot of love. I have a big piece right here that’s got Ed’s name all over it. And Wolfie’s name. And my daughter-in-law. And my mother. And my cats. And my girlfriends. And all the people that I love in my life. My heart can hold it all.”

She rounded out the video with a final message for followers: “And, if I ever fall in love again, I’ll make room in my heart for that person, without it touching the love I have for Ed, my son, my daughter-in-law, all the people that I love.”

Valerie Bertinelli Paid Tribute To Eddie Van Halen On Anniversary Of His Death

The backlash came after Bertinelli shared a heartfelt tribute to Van Halen on the anniversary of his death, which drew a lot of love from the actress, but not from everyone else. 

The 66-year-old actress took to Instagram to share a throwback photo of herself and Van Halen smiling together inside a car. Alongside the nostalgic snapshot, she wrote, “Photos may fade, as old photos do, but not the memories and never the love.” 

The American songwriter died in 2020, at the age of 65, in Santa Monica, California, following complications from cancer. 

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Valerie Bertinelli Shared An Emotional Post On Memorial Day For Her Mother And Eddie Van Halen 

The actress has continued to use social media to share her grieving process, as she posted a photo of her late ex-husband and her mother on Memorial Day, where they both appeared bubbly. 

Bertinelli followed the post with an emotional caption, highlighting the close relationship her mother and Van Halen shared.

According to The Blast, Bertinelli admitted how much of a vacuum their deaths left in her heart, adding she decided to mourn them especially by having a good cry while feeling lucky to have loved and been loved.

Valerie Bertinelli Opened Up On Her Deformed Breasts 

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Away from her ex-husband, the celebrity cook has also been in the spotlight for a totally different reason: her boob job. 

While discussing her recent memoir “Getting Naked,” Bertinelli got candid about the struggles with her appearance. In the memoir, she detailed how she had four surgeries on her chest in 2024, leading to it becoming deformed. 

“My b**bs suck, but I’m not dating, so it doesn’t matter,” the actress stated, per The Blast. 

Valerie Bertinelli Had A Terrifying Shoot For Her Memoir 

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For the memoir cover, Bertinelli’s editor felt the cover should match the book’s theme of honesty. However, the experience of having a n*de photoshoot was “terrifying” for the chef as she worked with a team to prepare for it.

The actress eased into the shoot, arriving on set in a cozy sweater to stay comfortable. 

Despite how intimidating the moment felt, Bertinelli described it as powerful, per The Blast.

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